What are the benefits of incorporating? It sounds like it's been a nightmare.
If you have partners, then its easy to set ownership (its % of shares), sell shares to VC, etc. Note: I am no where near this step yet, so I don't know the gritty details here.
I made every mistake possible as a corporation and have big scars to prove it. If you get some training, it won't be such a bad experience I'd hope.
Agree on the FICA.
For market value wages, I consult websites that report average salaries like glassdoor, again a recommendation from those CPAs.
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