You know the missing mathematical background isn't actually that hard to learn. And once you learn it, you may notice important details you're currently missing.
For instance the lecture you got annoyed with was covering how to correctly model a second degree differential equation. So you know that d^2x/dx^2 = f(x, u). This is a different and more complicated problem than a first order differential equation. They handled it by turning it into a system of first order differential equations. And then demonstrated how the obvious way to do it lead to numerical instability, creating a physically incorrect result. And then they had to do more complex stuff to avoid the numerical instability.
The underlying concepts share a lot with a simple first order equation. But the generality is letting you tackle and deal with issues that a simple model can't. Plus the technique described can be expanded in a straightforward way to model a combination of interacting things.
But you froze up at the idea of linear algebra and didn't even realize that they were dealing with a much more complicated problem than you thought.