So who uses these features then?
Not all titles do this, since most titles are cross-platform and you're not going to do tons of optimization for a specific one unless there is a huge payoff.
Instruction set extensions (which I believe might be what you were thinking of) are used via intrinsics and assembly programming by pretty much any performance-oriented code. For example look at the dozens of architecture-specific implementations of glibc functions: x86-64[0], arm[1].
[0] https://sourceware.org/git/?p=glibc.git;a=tree;f=sysdeps/x86... [1] https://sourceware.org/git/?p=glibc.git;a=tree;f=sysdeps/arm...