Here's a thing - there are thousands of people who experience ASMR (including myself) and I only recently found out that it is a thing. Previously I had assumed that everybody feel it, but simply don't talk about it. Apparently not. How am I being scammed out of money then? This is not something somebody imposed on me - I had it all my life.
Anyway, this is very real, though not everyone experiences it. For those who don't, like yourself, it seems like a bunch of BS.
However, there's no denying an effect on people in these videos. I can't listen to Mrs. GentleWhispering more than a couple seconds before feeling sick. And I mean that! My best guess is that I feel the video being deliberately manipulative and generate a shut off.
From your description it sounds like that's what you feel.
You should check some other category of ASMR videos. For example those where people show their collections of various elements or simply some brushing without any words or videos where author makes candies from special toolkit [1].