> I raise my children based on my own judgments of what's best for them. And I use my own God-given intelligence and experience to form those judgments.

So you refuse to acknowledge that you might be lacking in knowledge and experience in some critical aspects of your childrens' education. And/or you refuse to accept that the conclusions you reach with your limited knowledge, alone, one single human out of billions, might be erroneous and cause harm to your children. And/or you refuse to accept that there might be others out there with more knowledge and experience than you on certain topics. And/or you think God will make everything okay just because you have faith, and the fact that people get raped and killed every day despite their faith does not sway you.

I think that, right there, is the source of your problems.

I pity your children for having you for a parent. For having someone like you be in control of their lives.