The 'Optimal' solution would use less energy. The adversarial relationship seeks a different Nash equilibrium.
Further the energy costs, pain, and suffering from monthy periods has a lot to do with the conflict, wolves for example don't suffer nearly as much.
Realistically it's at best a local optima, but robustness and adaptability are hindered but such inefficiency.
A high risk, high reward strategy that works out well for humans that survive and end up with large brains, but terrible for certain individuals for the reasons previously outlined.