I'm not surprised. I quit playing multi-player online games (Starcraft) because of excessive violence threats and verbal abuse. It's an unfortunate side effect of the gaming community, and I feel the Oculus appealed to that community.
Actually my first thought was also, "well, it is targeted toward gamers". But Starcraft? Was your handle "uglyblacklesbianexxonexecutive"? I play starcraft II almost every day and I find the community very polite. The worst I ever see is occasional gloating after a victory or accusations of cheating in defeat. Most matches the only chat is "glhf" and "gg".
I don't think I've seen anybody acting badly either. I've even had people talk to me after thrashing me to give me hints on how not to lose so thoroughly next time. I've played since SC1, there's never really been anybody malicious in a decade or whatever it has been since then.
Yeah if most players are anything like me they're just trying to keep their production going. Firing off the standard insults you'd hear in CoD or Halo takes too much time.