I don't think either of us is capable of making definitive statements on the harm of women-only education programs, so I'll stay out of that.
I do believe however that it's completely and utterly impossible to improve gender dynamics without putting emphasis on it.
Using the (un)conscious (in)competence learning model [1] as a reference what you're saying is essentially that we should just go from unconscious incompetence straight to unconscious competence without doing that whole 'conscious' step, but that's just not a realistic option.
To achieve mastery or improvement in anything it needs to, at least temporarily, become conscious.
And yes, that will indeed be uncomfortable at first, but I really don't believe we can get there without it.