Some would argue that your programming position is too manly, that the programming field itself is too insulated with the male gender and that it should be seen as less of a boy's club and more of an equal ground for all.

Weird, when you think about it. Clicking and typing. I suppose there's some rhetoric about "X is better at math than Y and programming is based on math" but at the end of the day it just seems like bologna. And it doesn't address any insecurities you may have as an individual who is also a man.

My solution, though, as a man is to simply not care about being a man. I'm a person. I've got all the skills of all genders because I believe all skills are, unto themselves, genderless. Mannerisms, fashion, hair-styles, etc. can follow as well but really, they don't bug me. I've got other interests in mind. I think we, as a society of computer users and consumers, have all these other worlds to fancy ourselves with nowadays. Sometimes I catch myself in the mirror and have to realize I am not just some running narrative but a person with "roles" and "definitions" It can be a bit jarring. Still, that passes and I'm back to being me, my little identity, not caring about gender roles and other hang-ups like that.

I hope some day that everyone can be happy being themselves and not have to question "What does it mean to be X, and how do I follow that rulebook?" Instead we should ask, "What does it mean to be me?"