What a disgustingly ignorant thing to say. The sheer obliviousness of your privilege in this regard is staggering. It's ridiculous to expect someone to put up with harassment and vitriol and, when they finally give up and leave — which is completely normal and something any normal person, including yourself, would do — say that it was all on them.
You may not even realize it, but your comment actually excuses all of the sexism and misogyny in the industry. It's putting the onus, and the blame, on the victim. That's awful.
None of the above stopped me from slinging that code for several hours today.
I understand what being a minority is, but quite frankly most of the time that shit is in our head. If you don't care, then no one will. Somebody having an advantage does not mean you have a disadvantage, this is not a zero sum game. I am writing code for a product for women (Hint: Alexander Wang, diane von furstenberg, Tory Burch, Marc Jacobs kinda stuff). Just because women knows these brands more than I (in general) does not mean I should sit back.
It's hard, I get it, but what other choice do we have but roll up our sleeves and make our own mark and tell them "You see, mine count too," instead of "Make it easy for me to get in."
But I'll admit, I am very naive, and that has cost me greatly.
At any rate, apologies.
> Somebody having an advantage does not mean you have a disadvantage, this is not a zero sum game.
Err, yeah it does. That's exactly what it means. If someone has an advantage over you, you are at a disadvantage. That's what the word "disadvantage" means.
> Just because women knows these brands more than I (in general) does not mean I should sit back.
No one is saying you should. That actually has nothing to do with this. No one is asking for work to be segregated; in fact, they're asking for the exact opposite.
> "You see, mine count too," instead of "Make it easy for me to get in."
Why not both? Why not, "Stop treating me like shit and count mine." This isn't either-or.
Since the kind of advantage/disadvantage we are talking is relative, not absolute, yes, it does.
For all intents and purposes, there's nothing stopping a woman from learning how to program, contribute to open source and engage in community. A lot of people, male and female alike, operate under a pseudonym. Unless you're a celebrity, it's generally smarter for plenty of reasons, including risk management (something contemporary feminists don't seem to comprehend) and OPSEC.
Even if you do use your real name and explicitly denote your sex as female, you'll still survive. You certainly aren't immune from trolling. No one is. But frankly most cases of "harassment and vitriol" I've read about (on the Geek Feminism Wiki, for instance) tend to be mostly about offended sensibilities.
This isn't victim blaming. It's being realistic.
Except the community, which is generally hostile towards women. Sure, someone can learn how to program on their own without ever interacting with the programming community, but that means shutting them off from a huge and helpful resource.
> A lot of people, male and female alike, operate under a pseudonym.
"It's fine as long as you never say you're a woman!" Yeah, that's indicative of a friendly culture.
>Unless you're a celebrity, it's generally smarter for plenty of reasons, including risk management (something contemporary feminists don't seem to comprehend) and OPSEC.
Aside from all your open source work never being attributable to yourself, sure. It's totally smarter. I'm sure no one ever contributes to open source projects with the intent of getting their name out. And your little aside to "contemporary feminists" (ironically in the same comment where you complain about generalizing cultures) just reveals your true intention in this discussion.
> ...tend to be mostly about offended sensibilities.
Ah, here we go. The "you're just too sensitive" argument. As though not wanting to be hurt or harassed or bothered is a bad thing. As though the culture of trolling and adolescent behavior that permeates the programming community should remain the status quo, and anyone who calls for change just doesn't have thick enough skin.
You sure do bring some unique and insightful contributions.
Do not expect shaming attempts to substitute for an argument here. Taking offense can't make you right.
There's the industry and then there's the calling. If they share my obsession, where is their mountain of hobby projects for getting it out of their system when their day jobs do not?
Was that intended as a warning for the rest of your post?
>It's ridiculous to expect someone to put up with harassment and vitriol
Of course it is. And since that does not happen any more frequently in tech than anywhere else, and does not happen any more frequently to women than to men, I have a hard time seeing the relevance.
>You may not even realize it, but your comment actually excuses all of the sexism and misogyny in the industry
You may not even realize it, but your comment actually makes women less likely to participate in tech. When people constantly make a huge fuss about imaginary misogyny, women start feeling like they are blamed by all the normal people, even though they had nothing to do with it and are actually normal people themselves.
You might as well be stating the world isn't round, or the sky isn't blue, or any other plainly obvious fact that has been proven countless times. Of course, you'll say sexism in the industry really doesn't exist, and ignore the thousands of women detailing their experiences[1] on the subject, so this isn't really for you. This is for the random reader who might not be as pigheaded and oblivious.
> When people constantly make a huge fuss about imaginary misogyny
Did "imaginary" suddenly change meanings? Because either it did, or your head is so far in the sand, you've been ignoring some of the most[2] recent[3] incidents.[4] If you haven't been paying attention to the programming and tech community, you really shouldn't be speaking about it, you know? It just makes you look like a jackass, and you wouldn't want that, right?
[1]: http://www.chicagonow.com/wild-side-chicago/2013/09/sexism-i...
[2]: http://www.npr.org/blogs/alltechconsidered/2013/09/11/221052...
[3]: http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/09/10/pax_dickinso...
[4]: http://www.thebolditalic.com/articles/3895-ignant-halloween-...
No, I say it is rare, no more common than in any other industry, and goes in both directions. But debating what I say rather than a strawman is too much effort right?
>you've been ignoring some of the most[2] recent[3] incidents.[4]
None of those are examples of misogyny. If you do not understand the meaning of the word, you can use a dictionary to find out.
>It just makes you look like a jackass, and you wouldn't want that, right?
I don't mind if a histrionic sjw with a victim complex thinks I am a jackass.
Anxiety toward certain fields driven by experiences in formative years -- including experiences of other people's attitudes, which may include bias in perceived racial or gender abilities or roles -- is a real and often socially-induced thing, and the most well-known manifestation is math anxiety.
Its not really hard to see how this can relate to programming, particularly given the close relation between programming and math.