> I really do think that most people have a deep love for government
I believe that the examples you give, to the extent tht they are valid at all, support my idea (that people take government for granted but have positive or negative views of government doing particular things) more than yours (that people love government).
> People love taxes (although they often think the taxes on themselves are too high),
This particular one I think is garbage. People tend to think that some level of taxation is necessary, because they think that some government functions are necessary. That's different than "lving taxes" in a general sense.
> they consider government to be virtuous ("who would take care of the poor without government")
Thinking that government is an essential mechanism for a desirable function does not mean that they think government is "virtuous". Or that government qua government (as opposed to particular governments or particular people in goverment) is even the kind of entity to which "virtue" or "vice" could meaningfully apply.
> and they believe that (and are grateful that) they are completely dependent on government for their own welfare and safety
I've certainly observed some people believing that certain government functions are desirable because they contribute to welfare or safety, but I've never encountered anyone that both viewed themselves as completely dependent on government for anything that did not resent that complete dependence, nor have I seen many people that show any signs of feeling completely dependent on government for welfare or security.
> It's very common to hear phrases like "democracy isn't perfect, but it's the best system there is,"
That's not a defense of government, that's a statement that given the inevitability of government, one particular way of organizing government is better than the alternatives.
> or "if you don't like something, you can vote to change it,"
That's a statement of an route of problem resolution available in a particular form of government, not a statement in favor of government qua government.
> or "government represents the people,"
I've never heard that statement made in a general sense (the closest is the observation that all governments are ultimately limited in power to what those subject to their power will tolerate), though I've heard similar statements about particular governments or forms of government, or as normative statements about what government should do.