"Negging" is a negotiating tactic and you have failed to show how it is linked to misogyny in any way, shape or form.
FWIW, to be accused of misogyny is really offensive to me personally.
is this usual outcome?
What makes you say that? He's not the one throwing names around. What would constitute "reacting well" in your book? Agreeing with you?
All I'm doing is pointing out that being "negged" just seems to be making him quite defensive and angry. I thought that having his self-esteem be reduced should make him more sexually appealing and available - but that doesn't seem to be happening.
A neg is more or less exclusively meant to be used on women who are exceptionally attractive AND who have an enormous ego because of that. It's meant for women who are always surrounded by fawning men who cater to her every whim because she is beautiful. Especially in an environment, such as a nightclub, where come-ons are frequent. And even then, it usually needs to be very subtle, used in context with as light a touch as possible.
Right, but in practice it doesn't work like you seem to imagine it does.
A handful of feminists are accusing him of hating women for wanting to be more attractive to women. Nothing's new.
Just because people aren't standing up to a handful of feminist bullies ("fedorable"?) doesn't mean the community here doesn't like him. It just means that don't want to pick a fight.
I accept their rationalization might be different. But it always is. Everybody thinks they wear a white hat.