A.) Use okcupid.com -- much better site. B.) I agree that match.com should probably identify which members actually are capable of responding, and it might increase signup rates if it notified non-paying members when they received a response and then allowed them to see what they'd missed once they paid. But imho, online dating is inherently "humiliating and disappointing."
Even if that is true, that is no reason for the design of match.com to increase the humiliation or disappointment.
Disclosure: I met a lot of women online (including the one I married) and generally enjoyed it, but I'm always interested in hearing other perspectives.
I met my second wife at a party.
I must be truly disconnected from my time.
Why are you disclosing that you met and married a woman online?