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HAHAHAHAHAHA.

Sorry, but you're the guy (as a type) I went on tons of dates with before meeting my current boyfriend. I always ended up running away, because I felt like you were out to impress me and not actually, you know, talk to me.

To me, had I gotten into a relationship with you, I would have had no idea of how to deal with your emotional needs - plus how would I expect you to take care of mine. There never was any hint of that on a date with that type.

Which is why I am not dating a guy like you at all...

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This approach is the same as for 'Nigerian inheritance' scams - the whole point of an aggressive start is to ensure scaring away people who aren't going to fall for it, so you don't waste time on them.

Spammers deliberately make horrible e-mails that only the gullible will reply - with credible emails they have to waste time on 'unproductive' leads, there is research on that. The parent poster is perfectly happy with scaring away girls that want their emotional needs taken care of, since he's looking for something different anyway.

FWIW, I think he fully realizes this and has chosen not to care:

> Obviously, some women won’t step into that “frame”. It doesn’t matter: the thing you have to realize is that men display, and women select. The key to catching women is approaching more women. Depending on your perceived status, a certain fraction of women will ‘select’ you. Don’t waste time with women who don’t ‘select’ you. Focus on the ones who do.

> you're the guy (as a type) I went on tons of dates with before meeting my current boyfriend.

TONS OF DATES, you say?

So in other words, his strategy worked. Or were you a virgin until you met your boyfriend? Of course you were.

No, you dated/fucked a bunch of guys who wouldn't settle down with you, until you finally found a guy who would. A guy who was distinctly different than the other type, the A type.

It's incredible to me how you can type something like that and not realize what you're saying. I mean seriously. Completely oblivious.

Probably why women "lose the dating game."

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