I think you'd most quickly benefit from http://learnpythonthehardway.org/ or http://ruby.learncodethehardway.org/

It sounds like you haven't really moved much beyond googling for code snippets to solve specific problems. Work through one of the above books so you pick up some vocabulary and get introduced to a range of concepts.

A lot of the other comments are overly ambitious with their suggestions. Start small and learn Ruby or Python. I recommend staying away from frameworks such as Rails because of the high overhead of required knowledge that won't really benefit you as a programmer in general.