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1 child on the way, 1 startup doing ok. i selected 0 though

This really doesn't have anything to do with the topic, but when you said you selected 0 when you have one kid on the way, I feel I had to comment. My wife was pregnant with our twins over Mother's Day. DO NOT, under any circumstances tell your 7 months pregnant wife that since she "isn't a mother yet" she doesn't get a Mother's Day gift. I was in the dog house for a while after that.

She was 14 person-months pregnant. Of course she must have been considered mom.

Ouch.

May I suggest flowers every week?

Sigh. Why do men allow women to emotionize them out of their own property? I mean, I'm assuming she just made you sleep on the couch, but personally, I think that's a bit dehumanizing. Why do we, as a culture, accept that? Yes, I realize she was hopped up on hormones. There are plenty of other examples, though, where women get some kind of "right" to kick men out of their own place when they feel emotionally sidelined. Are women really so emotionally fragile that this needs to happen?

There are always (at least) two ends of a relationship. You can never put the blame at one end only.

I've rarely heard "in the doghouse" to mean literally sleeping in the doghouse, or even sleeping on the couch. IME, it just means "in trouble", i.e., she was upset with him for a while.

I agree that "making" a man sleep on the couch is not acceptable in the sorts of cases that folklore usually reports for it, but (and maybe I just know more reasonable couples?) I don't often see it happen in real life.

No, it's because the men acquiesce. The few times my wife has been angry enough to tell me to sleep on the couch, I've just said no. What happens then is she sleeps on the couch then wakes up a few hours later because it's too uncomfortable and comes into bed next to me.

Our "unspoken rule" now is that neither of us has the right to kick the other out of bed. If one of us is that upset, then it's up to him/her to sleep somewhere else.

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