"Spending time" doesn't actually mean you're really present though does it? Not trying to sound harsh, but it's something I've examined a lot in my family relations as well. It reminds me of the dads at the playground who are having conversations on their cell phones while their kids are trying to interact with them. They're spending time with their kids, but are they "there"?

Thanks for writing though. I think too many people think success will happen within the first year or so and don't realize there are often pivots and things don't often go ... as planned.