FWIW, if Netflix agrees to install one of their appliances in your network, they do it completely free of charge.
If you don't meet their requirements (which are based upon average aggregate traffic levels), you can't even pay them to get one.
If your ISP meets the requirements and is refusing, well, it's their own damn fault -- they're simply wasting money.
Personally, I am happy to peer with anyone with whom I share a presence, even if they're an "eyeball network" like me and we'd only be passing a few megabits of traffic.