Buying into the hype of government is what gives governments the power to commit senseless crimes like what was done to Alan Turing and many, many crimes that are much worse. The correct answer to "should the UK government pardon Alan Turing?" is "fuck off".
I view the gay marriage issue in the same light. I have gay friends that care deeply about marriage equality, but as much as I love them and they are my friends, I simply cannot sympathize. My answer to them is: "Live your life, do want you want to do, don't ask the government or anyone else for permission".
If worried about my status as defined by the U.S. government and the fairness I can expect from U.S. government, I would just kill myself now. Thankfully I realize that government is just another scam for me to avoid to the best of my ability.