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throwit1979·

Well, that's a constructive comment. The strange irony of what you said is that it was exactly the intense bullying I received as a computer nerd in grade school that helped lead to the understanding that I am in full control of how others "make me feel".

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It's probable that you had stronger psychological fortitude in the first place than many people. Not everyone comes to the feel-control realization on their own, some require intense relearning (therapy, counselling, etc.) to figure it out. Many people never make the connection.

It's also possible that one person's "intense bullying" is another's "gee, I wish my bullying was that low-grade".

Oh, in that case bullying is ok as long as enough people agree that it's low-grade?

It's also possible that one person's "low-grade bullying" is another's "gee, I'm glad my bullying is not that bad".

Not at all. I'm simply pointing out that without details on the bullying, it's entirely possible that @throwit1979 has little or no experience with the sort of viciousness that causes psychological problems for those verbally abused, resulting in the seemingly ignorant opinion that everyone has the power to fully control their emotions and behaviour.

If you think that's intense bullying, you should be glad.

Another strange response, seeing as how I never even specified anything about my bullying experiences, other than their effects.

Right, I misread your post. My mistake, sorry.

Sounds like the intense bullying you suffered damaged you. You think of this as a good thing; many others would not.

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