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Regarding the last bit, I don’t quite see the point. If I had a wife and she ripped off the sink, put a plastic tub there and called it an improvement, because the metal in the sink could rust, I would be quite clear with her that I think this is a ludicrously stupid idea and she should feel extremely dumb for even thinking of it, her being my wife or not.

(Nitpick: Do you mean Richard Wagner or someone called Vagner I’ve never heard of?)

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Point is if you are going to be totally honest, that marriage won't work off really well. You need to be honest about some things but some small things you need to overlook (like her snooring, or eating her caked blood, or smoking or etc.).

If she did that, I'd definitely say it is a stupid/bad idea because X, Y, Z and move along. She just lacks context/knowledge why it is a stupid idea. If she is dimwitted to a point that she doesn't understand even when it's explained, I'd try to find a new wife.

Note: meant Wagner, and it's fixed.

Pretty sure there's a reason that you don't have a wife, if that's your attitude...

That was low, I don't agree with him, but seriously that ad hominem was disgusting and out of place.

I am now poorer for the time wasted replying to your post.

O right - my reply is disgusting ad hominem and out of place, but suggesting that you call your wife "ludicrously stupid" and "extremely dumb" is not?

Edit: Just saw your reply to the OP: "If she is dimwitted to a point that she doesn't understand even when it's explained, I'd try to find a new wife."

Words fail me.

I don't know. I can't stand to be with someone that isn't on par with me when it comes to intellect/emotions (and that is not that difficult to achieve). To commit to such a serious relationship with someone that doesn't and can't understand my position seems almost impossible for me.

Also the wife in question is a theoretical construct, not an actual human being, that was for purpose of mental experiment made 'extremely dumb'. He isn't saying his or any other wife/parter was dumb, he made a thought experiment to demonstrate his point. Try to not be so obtuse.

Yeah, also probably a reason why he has life and does not spend most of his free time tiptoeing around an abusive bitch like some many others.

Funny thing is most wives wouldn't think twice to critcise their husbands in such way is such circumstances.

>she should feel extremely dumb for even thinking of it.

I feel sorry for her and you haven't even found her yet.

If you make a ridiculous decision and go all the way to implementation without thinking it through, you objectively should feel extremely dumb about it. That means the feedback loops in your brain are working correctly. I feel sorry for anyone who has a systemic inability to learn impulse control.

>you objectively should feel extremely dumb about it.

Precisely, but that is the for the person themselves to feel and not to be told. If you get off on telling people they are lesser beings than you then there is something intrinsically wrong with your impulse control; it's called learning, and the day the world makes that a shameful thing is the day we all return to the middle ages.

N.B, this was specifically related to he/she having to feel dumb for even thinking it. Doing something when you have no expertise in that field is an entirely different kettle of fish. It seems in this case he/she would have been insulted for contemplating the idea inside the boundaries of his/her own mind..

'thinking' was clear hyperbole. Treat it more like 'seriously planning the idea' than 'the idea existed in their mind whatsoever'.

He means Richard Wagner. His music is fantastic but he was a racist [1].

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Wagner#Racism_and_anti...

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