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Who stops you from going into the kitchen?

Mostly mum, I am really grown up. But people here lives with their parents, until they are married (even when they are married). Nothing wrong that AFAI am concerned. But most people from western culture won't probably get it.

> But most people from western culture won't probably get it.

This is the easiest, most cowardly reply to any argument. For me it's not about being born in a western society (Eastern Europe actually) but about not accepting something just because that's the way it's been, or because it's better than the alternative.

Question everything. Why are things the way are? Why can't you live by yourself? Why can't you marry the person you want? Why can't you make yourself a cup of tea? Why can't you drive?

Its called respecting local sentiment. Its not so much that I agree with they ask me to do, but I chose to let them be at the expense of a little inconvenience to myself. Its not like they are killing me.

I do have a boundary and let them know when I don't like certain things.

You can either chose to stay in harmony or give them a middle finger to all their cultural feelings. I chose the former.

We have a lot of similar restrictions in US workplaces, mostly driven by unions. They are equally as ridiculous.

What kind of restrictions?

A simple example is when the presence of an overprotected electrical union makes it so nobody else is allowed to plug and unplug standard 120v cables. Better file a $150 ticket to get that coffee maker plugged in.

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