She NEVER had to take a joke. The joke wasn't directed at her and she wasn't part of the group talking.
She OVERHEARD them talking. Completely different matter.
I, for one, am offended when people eavesdrop me.
She OVERHEARD them talking. Completely different matter.
I, for one, am offended when people eavesdrop me.
I have been to many conferences, and have, many times, told something to someone that I thought might have been funny. While I don't think I have ever said something that I would think was harmful I nonetheless have said things that I would be embarrassed of they went "public", because I simply would not have wanted to be the focus of the attention.
I have read Adrian's blogpost, and she doesn't give enough detail for me to know just what it was about the comments that was offensive. Whether they were or not, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that the two developers were expecting their conversation to be quasi-private.
You've never wished the people behind you in a movie theater would hush up?