Two things - 1. This is a hard problem to respond to. 2. From what I've seen, most people on HN respond better when they see the OP has made some effort. Sort of like a homework problem. Your post mentioned very little about what you've done to get out of your situation, so that may have been why they were not enthusiastic to respond. I sincerely believe with your set of skills, you should be able to support yourself easily and anonymously if needed, or even emigrate. Great programmers are needed everywhere. Try looking for a company started by an Iranian, and apply there! There's always a way. Good luck!