Seriously? Talk about a strawman. No one is comparing how much taxes are in Somalia to NYC. Tell me how much more a web designer in NYC benefits from the government than another random person in NYC taking welfare.
You asked: "Please explain how a web designer making $250k a year freelancing out of an apartment in NYC is "benefiting" from the government more than a $30k/year individual on welfare."
How do you measure how much someone benefits from the government? Your comment suggests you're looking only at the value of services directly received, but that's not the proper way of computing the total benefit. You have to do a marginal analysis, looking at the incremental benefit as you go from "no government" to "government."
The economic insight here is that your benefit from the existence of government is not a fixed amount valued by the services you utilize directly. Rather, it's a percentage of the incremental gain in wealth that is enabled by the existence of government. And because societies without government basically cannot create more than subsistence-level wealth, that increment is a big number.
That's not a marginal analysis. A marginal analysis would be going from "slightly lower taxes, slightly less government" to "slightly higher taxes, slightly more government".
You seem to want to debate (all by yourself) primitive tribal society vs civilization.
This is not an argument about the desirability or optimality of bigger or smaller government or higher or lower taxes. That should be an empirical fight.