Putting the remote host in the tab title is easy and included:

https://github.com/roderik/pivotal_workstation/blob/master/t...

As for the prompt, also included in the bash-it theme

https://github.com/roderik/bash-it/blob/master/themes/roderi... screenshot: https://f.cloud.github.com/assets/16780/35890/82d9d2fa-5290-...

I also use TotalFinder, but it seems this is one where my discipline didn't hold up, i installed it by hand :)

Eclipse should be easy, and IntelliJ is almost the same as phpstorm, the recipe for that is in the repo.