> The issue is not the temperature, it was that my preference was different to his and his solution was to force his preference because we disagreed on a point.

> Obviously it is not the only thing, but an example of using control instead of reason or consensus.

When the preference in question is temperature, not many households include children in the consensus process. Adults deciding that is quite normal with few grudges.

I don't know how to interpret "instead of reason". If you mean that literally, I strongly doubt the temperature setting was chosen without reasoning things through.