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Comment by criddell | Hacker News Reader

She’s a great writer.

A lot of people owe this family an apology. Here’s a sampling of some of the vile comments left on Reddit.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/comments/1wpll52/clip_of_a_...

Some of them would read this and still complain. There's no use in trying to please some very unhappy and likely single people online.

They did read this and still complained, as you predicted

https://www.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/comments/1wqhd02/im_the_mom...

If you sort by 'controversial', it only shows the sane replies.

I think the votes on that site are 90% bots, but it'd be believable that they're all real people too. It's just not a good place.

I think some of them caught wind of their shit-posting and started deleting their comments. Hopefully they learn something.

https://archive.is/MlgWh

Wow, Reddit is horrible. Atrocious behavior. Leave your brains in the anteroom!

> Whoever sees this and it reminds them of their current relationship, DUMP HIM

> you can tell by the body language, lack of initiative, and lack of joy and welcome-ness for his woman and baby to be back, everything you need to know.

> There is a VERY good chance that when he realizes he went viral for being the *Poster Manchild* of taking your spouse for granted, of choosing to act like a parasitic blob

Modern Reddit provides a simulacrum of commentary. There are posts and people discusing these posts, but nobody understands or wants to know anything about the underlying topic. The lack of comprehension is crucial to the community.

Its unfortunate because it's not only one of the things that makes social media toxic, but it also makes it less and less like reality. Which in turn pushes away people who have more "normal" views, thereby making the community even more extreme over time. Ask a random person in the street and they might say they think he should help her, but they wouldn't come up with these detailed narratives about abuse and manipulation. That kind of reaction is characteristic of social media and the more I see it the less I want to spend time online with those kinds of people

The other end feeds into itself too. Someone who posts something like that also is over-exposed to content enforcing that narrative. When you see your 50th video of the day of (e.g.) a man behaving in a way you don't like, you eventually conclude that men are all bad, and your reactions begin to become more and more pronounced. You're not reacting to that man, you're reacting to every man!

> and lack of joy and welcome-ness for his woman and baby to be back

Damn, do these people really jump out of joy whenever their SO, parent, child, friend, or whoever comes back after a 10' chore?

Life is not a movie, “coming back” is a dozen-times-of-day occurrence, no one will cheer you back from the toilets.

I gave up even touching that site many years ago. Any anonymous forum will turn to crap with enough people, and they have a voting system encouraging bad behavior on top of that, and loser admins, and probably bots voting too. There's no point.

I think it's also important to remember that these people are karma farming. When you can get 5k points for "man bad", who wouldn't?

Doubly reminded of that as I'm watching a DEFCON talk where he cites fake Internet points as a driving motivator. Which is my feeling too but yeah idk the whole thing is missing that "we're real people" thing.

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