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This sounds incredibly judgemental and imposing of your own world view and moral compass

what is so "incredibly" and "imposing" in the parent comment, that saying «my experience is…», «i feel more in it than many imagine/expect», «factually ruins many lifes», and «it just seem working this way», even «remove the judgment element» ??

it is as gently and friendly of a warning as it could be.

i would say rather less nicely: people! don't be degenerate! it does not worth it. it causes harm to you, to neighbours, to bystanders too, even if you dont intend.

Well OP claiming they get "bothered, upset and irritated" by people having "rape kinks" and "pitying them" sounds kind of judgemental to me. Same goes with "don't be degenerate" for sexual behaviours you do not approve that, somehow, also harm one's neighbours for some reason.

Something being judgemental is not a reason to dismiss it.

Imo judgemental as in starting from "my life experience" and getting to that's "how to live" is a reason to dismiss it as an argument, as others may have different life experiences and yours is not universal.

It is when there’s no concrete reasoning behind it. The reasoning provided here is “well I don’t like it, therefore it must be bad!”

That kind of thinking would be acceptable if we were like… 8 years old. But as an adult, having that reasoning process is embarrassing.

How having lot of sex would cause harm to my neighbours?

They might get sad because they feel like they're missing out

Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be having a good time.

I'm sure OP would argue that the breakdown of the family structure and social cohesion has a deleterious effect on society as a whole, which includes your neighbors.

It's really a hard time for freedoms, huh?

>There's a proper and healthy way to live.

dude straight up said other people are Doing Life Wrong

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