> well better they be the ones in poverty and not me

I'm not this extreme, and don't wish for others to be in poverty.

But I do wish for myself and my family to not be in poverty or suffering.

If the system is designed for these to be in conflict, that's not something I have the power to change, beyond voting for the less-shitty of 2 shitty choices on a ballot. At the end of the day I will prioritize myself and my family, and I think that's natural for 99% of people.