I googled it and got the response that Bjarne Stroustrup first used “intrusive” in his 1985 C++ book. He was adding a new distinction between the older intrusive kind and the new ‘non-intrusive’ kind, because some people had started using C++ to allocate the list nodes and the payload structs separately.

Now with std::list and college classes often teaching non-intrusive linked lists, and intrusive lists only being used in deep dark places like the OS kernel, maybe it’s easy to assume the ‘regular’ kind is non-intrusive.

What Stroustrup called ‘intrusive’ had been the default understanding of linked lists since around 1955, and what people used most often. A ‘regular’ linked list to most people back then was the intrusive kind, and the term ‘non-intrusive’ might have been an attempt to sell people on the benefits of abstracting and separating node types from payloads, but that maybe papers over the disadvantages a little.

The only kind of linked list I’ve ever used in my professional career is the intrusive kind. There are very few good reasons to ever use non-intrusive lists outside of the classroom. At least, not if you care about performance at all. They might be convenient & easy, but it’s usually the case that either an array or an intrusive list would be a better engineering choice.