Yes, perhaps people follow their own thoughts and opinions, so perhaps they understand and accept the IAU's explanation. Just like people less than 100 years ago perhaps accepted the explanation why scientists are suddenly adding a new ninth planet!
But I have a feeling that the problem you see is just a fairly normal social mechanism: if you use words differently from the majority of people, you will keep getting corrected because:
- some people might be genuinely trying to troll/aggravate you the way you're describing
- BUT: others might genuinely think you've made a mistake and try to correct you, unaware of any discourse
- and finally, other people might just disagree and attempt to discuss
No conspiracy is necessary to meet plenty of people who disagree, and the level of accusations you're throwing around tells me you might not be able to clearly categorize everyone.