This is not VCs being evil and corrupting a pristine engineer- or hacker-defined concept of true value. The VCs are all following the rules and are trying to make money off of risky investments (it's "venture" capital, after all). But the incentive structure just forces the market into either an oligopoly of largely extractive services (or into everything being free: that's why open source is also a stable point for software).
My hope is that in time, basic software services, like for communication, socialising, community hosting, and so on, will eventually become seen as core social infrastructure. I don't really think this can happen via existing institutions, even open source, because the fixed costs of making software are really high. You really need _tax_ to support this. But it's very difficult to do because the internet cuts across borders.
It’s sad when it’s asymmetric - founders lose their idealism and sell out while early employees fail to notice the game has changed.
But dreams are rarely enough to keep things going. And VCs know just what to say to make it seem like the dream and the money can coexist.
It can be power - see Reddit and Wikipedia mods - but it's usually money. And once VC fundraising is involved, it's pretty much always money.