> But there are also plenty of counterexamples of people who didn't have rich parents, didn't live in good school districts, and did it on their own. I know a person just like that, and she paid for school on her own working fast food shifts at night and full time in the summer, and now has a great job in biotech. $anecdote++;
The world is full of examples like this, but here's the thing that is always glossed over: hard work alone isn't sufficient for success. The kid who grows up on the wrong side of the tracks not only needs to do all the right things, they also need to never do the wrong thing, which typically requires both diligence and luck.
The rich kid who gets caught with drugs? It's a youthful indiscretion, he gets off with a talking to. The poor kid gets a criminal record, which makes it many times harder to succeed.
The rich kid who get pregnant? Her parents pay for an abortion. The poor kid drops out of school to raise the child.
The rich kid who slacks off an flunks a couple classes in high school? Parents pay for some fancy prep school to polish the kids academic record. The poor kid is essentially locked out of top-tier colleges.
The rich kid who doesn't land the Goldman Sachs internship after junior year? Goes to work at his mother's friend's consulting firm and still has something "good" on his resume when he's applying for the first job out of college. The poor kid works at the supermarket.
It's not that being poor means that you can't succeed if you work hard. It's that it means that the deck is stacked against you every step of the way, and that just working hard isn't actually enough even if you do everything right that's in your power to do. You also need to be lucky. If you are sufficiently well-connected and wealthy, however, lots of "minor" things get overlooked and you can be quite successful even if you don't work especially hard and aren't especially lucky.