Pulseaudio has been painless for like a decade and a half. Yes, it has a rough start and was probably made default in many distros before it ought to, but it's fine.
I'm honestly surprised how often in Linux PA with WirePlumber just does the right thing most times, IME.
On contrast, my linux laptop does not have any issue with the same headset and it gets connected instantly.
I'll take a Linux distro any day of the week.
Negligent is a better word. Even opensource linux support for bluetooth is way better for the same devices.