There are ways to use the tool better and worse, the worst is to blindly fire off the agent and commit the changes without reading them: This *only* works for very small projects, though it often *does* work for those projects.
For bigger projects, you need to use (and enforce use of) the right architecture, and read pull requests rather than saying "LGTM" and clicking accept. Pick the right way to split the project up into discrete components with clear boundaries between them, make sure that the LLM's commits never introduce surprise coupling outside those boundaries, and make sure the unit tests aren't ridiculously brittle, they can be OK.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grPtnrOTP_4
"Make sure to read the commits" seems to be enough for your points 2/3, at least for me. But everyone thinks a bit differently, YMMV. It also means I almost immediately catch most of the (20%? 10%?) of the time the LLM does something wrong, though not all of them.
I find I still have deep focus. If anything, the problem for me is they're so addictive I am tempted to keep working and working rather than rest, a problem I last faced over 20 years ago when I was working on a personal project that ended up not going anywhere.