You've read the testimonies of those that survived Dresden and Tokyo then?
Again, dead is dead, injured by temperatures that melt flesh is the same regardless of heat source.
Is there any reason to elevate death by atomic weapon above death by carpet bombing HE's and incendiaries?
Depending on how affected you are, you can become literally poisonous to touch. And that's just for people affected by the explosion. Then there are the people that won't be able to go back home because of radiation. That's a different kind of pain. And yes, bombs also can bulldoze cities, but at least you can recover and reconstruct
How about we both don't have nuclear weapons and also don't carpet bomb people?
If we're going to move the goalposts, why don't we just move them to the logical endpoint and proclaim "why don't we just not have wars"
Which, by the way, perhaps it's of interest to compare the frequency and severity of war before and after the invention of atomic weapons
Anyway, I'd be curious to hear your ethical solution to the trolley problem? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trolley_problem)