Imagine your fiance of 5 years is vegan, and asks you not to put mayo in her food. You sneak it into her food anyway and write a blog post about it. You can tell her all the excuses you want:
- 90% of the world eats animal products daily
- I spent 300+ hours of work finding the best mayo
- I could have kept sneaking slop into your food and not disclosed it
But at the end of the day you're still ignoring her wishes. You can go ahead and keep building this labyrinth of reasoning for yourself, where you're right and everyone else in the world is wrong. And you'll end up dumped with nobody wanting to collaborate with you, talking to ChatGPT late at night who tells you "you're absolutely right, you're a brilliant coder, you deserve better than her!"
People are weird. People plant their gardens their own way. Some like ketchup instead of mayo. Some don't want want AI slop in their codebase. Nobody's stopping you from using your patches privately on your own computer. But if you seek the social validation of having them accepted upstream, you have to learn to respect the people around you.