I would suggest you a mirror + ass out of you and me reminder... The human ability to know the motives about the other person is severely overestimated...
I wanted to have a friendly philosophical thought experiment / different pov with the original poster, if he had the time and desire to do so. instead you butted in and went into a full blown j'accuse style which was very unpalatable.
I wish you a nice day touching some grass and enjoying all the beautiful stuff a cancer iyho has created. Take care.