The first step would be indeed to join forces with UK, in order to don't be two entities, which is very unnatural to me.
Maybe it's good you left for now, maybe we can finally get these things done. And once that's accomplished and enough of the gammon has died off, you can always rejoin :-)
They also have the obvious place for any common EU market (which is desperately needed). Brexit has been bad for everyone involved.
I can see most people want that UK wouldnt just get special treatment any more.