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They chose to do make content about one of their fellow classmates they knew would be harmful and shared it with others. It doesn't matter how aroused they were. If you're aroused, there's petabytes of porn literally all over the Internet.

I have kids. A significant part of raising them is showing/teaching them that feelings are natural, but only some outlets for those feelings are acceptable. My kids are younger than high school.

Society is built around not destroying everything when you're angry. Hopefully that is easier when you're adult, but it's certainly the norm to expect it from children as well.

What would you do if your child suffered brain damage from an illness or injury and lost the ability to regulate their emotions? And what if the severity of that impairment was right on the borderline—just enough to be penalized by society, but not enough to qualify for any support?

I used to be an instructor at a karate dojo, and several parents brought their kids to me, asking me to "do something" about their violent behavior. One of the children had been diagnosed with autism, but the rest hadn't even been evaluated by a doctor. The parents likely expected me to discipline them through fear and (possibly) corporal punishment, but I chose to instruct them relying solely on words until the very end.

However, it was futile. When I taught them that they must not hurt others or lash out, they would reply, "I understand." But the reality was that they had merely learned to say "I understand" whenever spoken to by an intimidating opponent they knew they couldn't beat.

Ultimately, every single case ended in disappointment. Consumed by a profound sense of powerlessness with the last child, I gave up teaching kids altogether.

You and your children are simply fortunate to possess the cognitive capacity to understand that making deepfakes is wrong.

> What would you do if your child suffered brain damage from an illness or injury and lost the ability to regulate their emotions? And what if the severity of that impairment was right on the borderline—just enough to be penalized by society, but not enough to qualify for any support?

I would approve of depriving them of the opportunity to hurt others, but keep loving them and supporting them for as long as I live.

The alternative would be covering for them while other kids suffer the consequences. I love my kids over everything else, but I would fail them and hopefully they would feel the same way if I put their enjoyment/freedoms over other peoples suffering. I wish society veered more towards balancing with responsibility and not simply maximizing individual freedoms. We need both.

> You and your children are simply fortunate to possess the cognitive capacity to understand that making deepfakes is wrong.

Possibly, maybe probably, but I've only met one kid like that yet, and his parents who I've interacted with many times definitely inflicted that behavior. But I can't know what I don't know, so I'll defer to your experience.

The issue here isnt even the deepfakes. If the kid made them and never showed them to anyone else no one would care. The issue is that he let the whole school know about it, knowing that would create an environment they dont feel safe in.

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