As for verification being expensive, it sounds like you don't know the actual costs. It's basically a hash. Finding the pre-image of a hash is very expensive to the point of being impossible. Verifying a pre-image + hash function = a hash is extremely cheap. That's the whole point of 1-way functions. Bitcoin itself is at ~1000 EH/s (exahashes per second)
Again, this isn't a technical problem. It's a coordination problem.
This whole scheme fails if an attacker can manage to delay a transaction for a day, and if the commitment also commits to a particular transaction fee, then the user trying to rescue their funds can’t easily offer a larger transaction fee if their transaction is delayed. But if the commitment does not commit to a transaction fee, then an attacker could force the transaction fee to increase arbitrarily.
Maybe the right strategy would be commit, separately, to multiple different choices of transaction fee.