Regarding the communication bit, I definitely agree with the order. While not doing it on purpose, looking back I did notice differences in the responses of people based on how I'd pitch an idea/project at meetups.
-infectious enthusiasm
-team emphasis
-rationally addressing all of their concerns
-leading them up to the idea so they 'come up with it'
-giving people a detail that they can change
-make sure one of their value added ideas is implemented within it
-putting someone in charge of a section of it
-reward/punishment
-scratching each others back
Essentially, making the other person have skin in the game.
A chef I used to work with would yell and rile up one worker when he saw we were going to get busy. One day the worker exclaimed, 'I hate this. why don't you yell at Bob?'. The chef replied, 'Bob works like shit when he is angry, you work like shit if you are not'.
Each person has their own trigger. Knowing that trigger is a huge part of managing people.