Yeah i have fantasies of having my own email server and stuff but the spam detection is probably the 3rd thing that would have me crawling back
You've functionally given yourself very little extra privacy because the vast majority of emails you send or receive will still cross through BigCorp servers (whether Google, Microsoft, Intuit, or other).
You can do the work to run your own mail server, but so few other people do that one end of the conversation is still almost always feeding a corporation's data lake.
No single BigCorp employee can go through all my mail.
If you're not convinced, no problem, please continue to enjoy your BigCorp email service.
The only upside of having an actual mail server is the ability to say "this is incorrect, no one ever tried to send an email to this address/from this IP" or custom 55x messages.