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Comment by abujazar | Hacker News Reader

That's quite abusive behavior. I'm sorry for these wives, having to deal with this as it's probably not the only thing they have to endure. And how do the spouses "prove" they're not cheating when they're away - or is that not so important because they can choose to do whatever?

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Can we stop labeling anything that makes someone 'unhappy' as abusive. Its not and i'm tired of pretending it is.

Installing cameras to control/monitor your spouse is definitely abusive behavior.

You cant CONTROL someone with observation, you can influence, but you can't control.

If this were true people would act a lot better in public, they do not.

Thank you. Words matter.

I notice most gfs these days resort to "why do I have to..." when upset. Which bothers me because I have never ever said someone MUST do anything.

There are many things a person should do. But almost nothing they actually have to do.

This is absolutely abusive behavior. Placing a camera to watch a partner so they don't do something is controlling and removes human agency.

That.is.abuse.

How about we stop letting abusers think that human beings are property meant to be controlled.

Are your cameras at work watching you abusive, is your macbook camera abusive, is your zoom calls abusive ?

Nobody controls anyone with an camera, this is no different than leaving a note to your kids "DONT EAT ALL THE FOOD IN THE FRIDGE".

Its the misuse of it that is abusive.

Vote down a all you want. Your anger shows your weakness.

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