My two cents, this seems like a case where it’s better to wait for the person’s response instead of guessing.
A question directed to GP, directly asking about their life and pointing this out is somehow virtue signalling, OK.
Maybe you’re just being defensive? I’m sure he didn’t mean an attack at you personally.
Accusing someone of “virtue signaling” is itself virtue signaling, just for a different in-group to use as a thought terminating cliche. It has been for decades. “Performative bullshit” is a great way to put it, just not in the way you intended.
If the OP had a substantive point to make they would have made it instead of using vague ad hominem that’s so 2008 it could be the opening track on a Best of Glenn Beck album (that’s roughly when I remember “virtue signaling” becoming a cliche).
Or should I too perhaps wait for OP to respond.