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The comment initially confused me, but after reading it twice, I completely agree with you.

I would love to delete the app, but Instagram has really become the norm for dating and connecting with people. The opportunity cost of not using it in your 20s is significant. I hope to delete it once I’m fully settled, but that might not happen anytime soon given the modern dating culture.

Sometimes, I wish I could live like the Amish.

By some irony, I only created an instagram account so that I could get some cookies to pass to yt-dlp to download some videos from a wedding shoot my wife and I did.

When you have a real LTR they become jealous of you being on it.

My relationship is quite long-term, it can almost get its learner's permit, and we use Instagram all the time to, like, share cute animal videos from the Explore/Reels screens to each other, share stories to our friends of whatever we're doing together, or not together, and see our friends' stories.

idk if your partner is jealous of you using one of the top five social networking apps in the world that seems a little weird and maybe your relationship is not very healthy? it's instagram, not tinder or okcupid...

As long as you stay on a happy path, it's only like 5% thirst traps. But many people don't like it when those things are popping up in their SO's feed, so Instagram isn't good for those relationships.

I avoid it now mainly because I don't need infinite scrolling of anything. But a side benefit is that it can't provoke any jealousy.

> As long as you stay on a happy path, it's only like 5% thirst traps.

I’m an infrequent facebook user, but every couple months I’ll visit the website for something on fb marketplace or an event I’ve been invited to and 100% of the reels that are shoved at me are softcore pornography. My only interaction with them has been to click the “hide this item” (or whatever it’s called) on every reel I’ve ever seen.

I gotta be honest if my partner was sharing cute animal videos more often than every great once in a while, I’d probably end the relationship.

> I would love to delete the app, but Instagram has really become the norm for dating and connecting with people

Really??

In my social circles, at least, the answer is yes. I live in a major city with many people from diverse backgrounds. It might be different in areas where tech people make up the majority.

I know for a fact that I wouldn't have been invited to some parties or met some really fun people if I didn't have Instagram. You don't have to post or be very active; you just need to have an account.

No, this is not true.

News to me. But I just left my 20's so maybe I'm late off the boat.

I'm not installing anything Meta for any potential date. maybe Twitter but that's already pushing it.

Likewise, just left 20s. I'd be shocked if anyone I'm dating red flags me for not having social media . Well I do have Linkedin if that counts

Instagram is pretty bland, not anywhere close to TikTok in the scale of societal malaise. It can be used as a plain photo sharing app, reels is still a secondary feature, and the only place you'll find both of those things. Stories is mostly snaps from your friends if you don't follow any 'influencers'. It has replaced Facebook as they way most people in their 20-50s connect, and a handle is better than giving away your phone number.

I wish we had better ways (coming with the DMA and chat interoperability? maybe), but it's tolerable.

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