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Safest thing to do is just leave no possible room for doubt. This means you can’t be friends with your coworkers, which is disappointing, but the tail risk of accidentally saying something that crosses the line is too severe when it comes to professional consequences.

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Fear is a bad advisor! I take the risk because i know that most people around me know me and trust that i say such things in good faith, without patronizing or overly flirting with people of the opposite sex. If it should have any profesional consequences, then maybe i would have the wrong employer.

You seem to be to afraid to be friends with your coworkers because of potential consequences? If that is so, i'm sorry, you are missing out a great deal in life.

I think this is right. Continue to connect with humans and try to evaluate their actions in good faith. Don’t be a creep but don’t skip life either.

Unfortunately if someone chooses to interpret your words or actions in an uncharitable way there’s not much you can do other than move on. It’s their burden to carry, not yours (except when there are real world consequences but I do think that’s a rare circumstance)

That sounds like a terrible advice that all the creeps are taking with predictable results.

A creep is going to be a creep with or without this advice.

I cannot tell if this is /s or not but yikes…

Yes! Good Working drone! You must keep on working, that’s your purpose after all!

Ah, Anglo-Saxon work culture, where one can't imagine not making friends at work because they have no social life outside of work.

Not making friends at work because you have fulfilled social life already, and not making friends at work to avoid any danger to your career are two very different things.

Not making friends at work, because it's not a good place to make friends, might push you towards ensuring having fulfilled social life outside of work.

I say this without rancor: unless I miss my mark, you don't live or work in the United States. You don't understand the stakes. I envy your life brother; I hope you appreciate it.

I live and work in Europe but I used to travel a lot for work to the US. Friendship or making friends indeed seems to work differently there, which was hard to grasp from my cultural pov. That said, I made a good friend there.

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