Comment by rPlayer6554 | Hacker News Reader

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*This does not seem like a censorship measure.* It seems like it requires OSs to give parents an easy way to filter porn.

I struggle with porn addiction. When I really fall back into it I act out 5-10 times a day. I can’t stop even if I want to. It distracts from work and from my real life relationships and girlfriend.

Everyone on HN loves to rag on social media because it’s so toxic. What about porn? If social media makes it easy to compare my “boring” life with “beautiful” influencer lives, why wouldn’t porn make my normal girlfriend and normal sex seem boring. Part of that is how young I found porn when my brain was still developing and forming how it processed sex and relationships. Porn makes me feel so depressed.

I am sure other people handle porn and social media better than me. And that’s ok, I respect that. *But even if you think porn is ok as an adult, can’t you see why adults should be able to have more control over what their kids see.* Yes if they are motivated kids will find it - I learned a lot of the engineering skills I have now getting around my parents blocker. *Not every kid is that good and this might help many.* If it’s not required to be on in the OS, what’s the harm?

P.S. if you struggle with something similar to me, look up SA, SAA, or SLAA.

Porn can be harmful, and it is an industry that dos a lot of damage to those working in it too.

There are better ways of doing this. For example require ISP provided routers to have built in parental controls or that people have the option of filtered connections, and ensure parents are offered child safe filtered SIMs at the same price as normal ones. It would not even require changing the devices.

Network level is more effective in blocking porn, but Kids often join unfiltered WiFi networks. Also I think network management is a bit more complicated for the average person than OS settings. I think both are useful

The issue here is not having an easy way to block porn, the issue is enforcing it. And easy ways to block apps and websites already exist. One I can recommend is called Freedom.

https://freedom.to/

(I expected it to be harder to find with that generic name)

edit: I like Leechblock for Firefox

Okay. I hear your struggles and want to ask: would you rather give others the tools to block your porn, or would you rather have easier access to help?

You need both in the world. Blockers are almost useless for adults with an addiction who can easily just buy a new device or figure out a way around.

Kids can’t really join addiction recovery groups, at least not in the same way adults can because it takes a full understanding of the impacts of porn addiction on life and a desire to stop. I can only speak for myself but even with parents who tried to communicate this, I didn’t have that level of maturity then.

Blockers at least can stop them from accidentally finding it, or generic curiosity. At least until the parents decide they are mature enough to handle the unfiltered internet

Reads like paid copypasta. In the unlikely case you're sincere, have you tried testosterone blockers medication? I checked out SLAA (SA and SAA yielded no results) and while learning to control yourself is nice, why should you have those urges in the first place if they are making your life miserable. I find most porn kind of boring and even icky. I would never get tired of seeing pretty women (especially naked), but porn itself is kind of meh.

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