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This is highly cultural. And I'd be surprised if, in the US, men "fear" gay men the way you're making out. But as OP clearly stated, there are countries where mixed sex naked saunas/spas are a thing and ogling or other kinds of harassment are not a big issue.

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I didn't state the degree. I just mean straight men oppose gay men more than straight women oppose gay women.

Oppose and fear are not synonymous.

In this situation, straight mens' fear is specifically from their insecurity about their own masculinity.

Would you say the same thing about women’s fear of being ogled in an enclosed space while naked?

Ogling for women carries with it the implied risk of rape due to natural differences in physical strength, and women experience rape at a much greater rate than men, so that threat would have higher salience than any equivalent gender-based insecurity.

At a greater reported rate than men, and even if true it doesn’t take away from the fact that men are still very much victims of rape.

So, no, they’re not just worried about it because of “insecurity of their masculinity”.

Ok, so the facts are wrong because you say they are. Got it.

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